I have been romantically involved on and off for almost five years with a guy I’ll call Chris because that’s his real name. It has been the most challenging of my life; he has a schizoid-avoidant personality, which has almost nothing to do with schizophrenia, and I am blessedly cursed with hypersensitivity and far less than a saint’s all-accepting disposition. He says he also has some form of OCD — a crack in the street will stall him for an hour when he only has to walk two blocks to Whole Foods. As attracted as we are to each other, as intellectually and artistically compatible, we are a fatally incompatible combo. Just as well that he lives in New York, I in Los Angeles.
I can have no expectations of Chris. I can rely on him for nothing. …» view more from the category KILLOUGH CHRONICLES, MAIN FEATURE, RELATIONSHIPS
Dear James and James —
Have I been MIA? Where have I been and what have I seen, and is it really worthy talking about?
When I tell people about all my travels the refrain is invariably, “Oh, you lead such an exciting life!” But globalization, as far as I’m concerned, simply means longer commutes to work, sprinkled with maladies from recycled air that of course have to blossom when I am on “a vacation” with, yes, my new lover. However, our destination is where he also happens to be working. We barely see each other except between the sheets.
Since we last spoke I went from LA to Paris. …» view more from the category ART, MAIN FEATURE, SCARLETT'S LETTERS
It was while talking to a friend about romantic relationships that I first formulated the term ‘strategic patience’. I’m not a foreign-policy wonk, so I had no idea that Obama has been using the term for a few years now to define his administration’s policy toward North Korea. Strategic patience is a situational stance more than a policy for…» view more from the category CONTENT CREATION, FILM & TELEVISION, KILLOUGH CHRONICLES, MAIN FEATURE, MAKING HATTER, PRODUCTION NOTES
Driving home from Beverly Hills yesterday, I passed a tall, skinny blond kid on the street wearing very short denim cut-offs, a horizontal striped crop top and a skanky Mickey Mouse ear-warmer hat thing. He may have just been wandering around thinking it was still Gay Pride, but I took it as a sign that I’d been gone from these pages for too long. If you, yourself, have recently committed any major fashion faux pas like wearing Uggs, sporting big Tory Burch logos or trying to pull off a dopey Pharrell hat while I was away, let’s just pretend it didn’t happen. It’s partially my fault for leaving you alone for so long.
You see, I’ve been busy these past weeks pulling up some very deep roots in one venerable Italian fashion powerhouse and planting a seed at another. …» view more from the category FASHION, FEATURE 4, MAIN FEATURE, TUTTLEMODE
Dear James and James,
What’s that game when you create your porn identity by adding the name of your first pet with the first street you lived on? Mine would be Milky Spring. Quite hot and pretty appropriate. Really the joke’s on me; I can thank my bohemian parents for already providing a perfect porno name in case I was so inclined to follow a calling in the sexual arts.» view more from the category FEATURE 2, HUMOR, MAIN FEATURE, SCARLETT'S LETTERS, SEXUALITY
While everyone else in the Western Hemisphere is obsessing over what Jay Z might have said to make Solange go all honey badger on his ass, I am pondering more important issues like what the hell and I going to wear this summer now that’s it’s already in the mid-90s in the middle of May. My friend Charles has been working with a men’s shop that he thinks is cool in L.A.’s West Third Street neighborhood for a while now and he has pretty good taste and even runs a style blog called Dapper Dan Man, although I don’t know what the fuck that’s all about since, as I said, his name is Charles. …» view more from the category FASHION, FASHION GALLERY, MAIN FEATURE, TUTTLEMODE
I’ve long learned to skim over online comments left by wingnuts both right and left. Just as you know to steer clear of shouty-crackers schizos in the streets, you shouldn’t engage or even acknowledge extremists.» view more from the category KILLOUGH CHRONICLES, MAIN FEATURE, POLITICS
Dear James and James —
It’s been brought to my attention recently, or maybe I should say I have recently been reminded, why I don’t drink hard alcohol. You might have seen me — unluckily or luckily, depending on what you fancy — a couple fashion weeks ago at the Yoyo Club in Paris. I drank vodka as if was spring water from Lourdes, then got on the DJ stage and danced a kind of striptease in my pink ruffled silk Rick Owens dress. The security guard gracefully tried to remove me from my adoring audience, …» view more from the category CREATIVITY, MAIN FEATURE, SCARLETT'S LETTERS, SUBLEAD